The cure for a broken heart

A broken heart is something we all have experienced, but want to a cure for it. Some listen to songs, watch movies, eat, and listen to others who haven’t gotten over a relationship which ended badly. The above mentioned solutions may assuage the pain, but are simply Band-Aid solutions which are temporary. However, the scars are still there, the pain comes back, and are still searching for answers. We lose sleep and often become allow our broken hearts to make us bitter. I know of someone who can heal our broken heart who is Jesus Christ. He literally died from a broken heart while being nailed to the Cross. There are scriptures and insights which I am about to share with you when it comes to dealing with having one’s hear broken.

Being broken hearted occurs when finding romance or getting over a bad breakup. I want to shatter that long held myth. People have had their hearts broken when not looking for romance. I have had my heart broken when being bullied for wearing glasses, braces, and being on the honor roll in junior high school. I have had my heart broken in high school by feeling less than my male classmates. I felt ugly, boring, and unworthy of the attention and blessings which were coming my way. In college I’ve had my heart broken when friends who I was there for weren’t there for me. I’ve had my heart broken after college when looking at Facebook albums of fellow Tech alums living the dream life and possessing all that I wanted. I remember when I worked at Chase, I sat at my cubicle during my fifteen minute break, and God was saying, “Chris, you need to give me your broken heart. It has nothing to do with me with romance, but being wounded by others.” I remember I read a familiar passage from the book of Psalms. The Father told me to chapter 51 and 147. In the former, I remember it saying that God us to surrender our broken heart. In chapter 147:3, it says that God can heal a broken heart. He can heal it if we give it to Him.

Holding on to a broken heart cultivates certain fruit within us. This fruit is dangerous and includes bitterness, jealousy, envy, and hate. We are bitter over our past and it not working out the way we expected. We become jealous when we see those we love be blessed by God in multiple areas of their lives. We become envious by thinking the grass is greener on the other side by not being grateful for what we have. We become hateful and want to see others fail because we are so miserable in our lives. All of the above is dangerous and towards the end of 2009 I learn that go. It wasn’t easy, but I had to give it up.

I recall several instances of being in a position where dangerous fruit was starting to grow in my spirit. I remember seeing Facebook photos of myself with my mentor, his wife, and two sons who I call my “little brothers”. I began to feel sorry for myself because my parents divorced at an early age, I never saw a template for a loving Christian marriage, and wanted that in my life. I became jealous and hateful. I began sending hateful messages to my mentor just to spite him. My mentor rebuked me for placing him and his life on a pedestal. I recalled an e-mail he sent me in August 2008 saying, ‘My life isn’t perfect, but I serve a perfect God.’ I allowed Satan an open door and not ask God for peace in my life. I couldn’t believe I began to fall back into old ways of thinking.

I started to pray and asked God why does my life seem hard? I read Psalms 16:11, Matthew 11:30, Colossians 3:8, Hebrews 12: 1, and 1 Peter 2:1. After the above mentioned verses, I was slowly delivered. I stopped thinking that my mentor’s life and the lives of people I went to college were perfect. I know that there were times where their lives seemed barren and hopeless, but they overcame. I overcame obstacles that I thought were insurmountable during college. Towards the end of 2009, I asked to take all of my broken heart. I asked Him for peace over opportunities that I thought I would work out during and after college. I asked Him for a better than I one I have, yet still be grateful for the present. Giving all of your broken to the Father’s hands is the key. We can turn to our Advocate, Jesus Christ, who understands all that we go through (1 Corinthians 10).

Christopher Hunter, author: From Your Eyes To Your Ears

Christopher Hunter, author: From Your Eyes To Your Ears: I'm pleased to announce to you all that the audiobook for Engaged To Be Murdered is now available as an audiobook. I want to personally...

From Your Eyes To Your Ears

I'm pleased to announce to you all that the audiobook for Engaged To Be Murdered is now available as an audiobook. I want to personally thank Thomas Fellows who served as the narrator and Glenn Koster who was the initial narrator but had to back out due to personal reasons. The audiobook is found at Amazon, Audible, and iTunes. For those of you who want to turn your writing into an audiobook visit ACX. The website provides assistance in the form of email and phone calls in order to make the process seamless. Upload a sample of your writing and select the voice type you want. The matter of royalties and payment are explained on the narrators' profiles which makes the process in creating an audiobook even easier. Reach for your dreams and never cease to make them a reality. Everyone believes dreams coming to fruition are the privileged few. A dream coming true is God's gift to you and using it is your gift to the Father.

Christopher Hunter, author: Witness For The Prosecution

Christopher Hunter, author: Witness For The Prosecution: Last Thursday morning I was sitting in my car mulling over me twenty-eight and being single while those closest to me are dating or are ma...

Witness For The Prosecution

Last Thursday morning I was sitting in my car mulling over me twenty-eight and being single while those closest to me are dating or are married. I was so depressed and resentful towards my peers who are married, engaged, or dating someone with the intent of marrying them. A friend, brother in Christ, in my Bible study told me to focus on my relationship with Christ which sustains me in moments when life appears bleak. After receiving a series of encouraging text messages I was prodded by the Holy Spirit into reading 1 John 4. It is a chapter I frequently read during my senior year at Tech and after graduation when I was scrambling for work. I also learned from that powerful chapter that in order to recognize one has to be renewed in the love of God exemplified in Jesus Christ on a daily basis. Retreat to the Bible for refuge so the Enemy won't distract you or keep you from reaching your fullest potential by planting seeds of fear and doubt in your heart and spirit. Resentment comes from looking at others, but contentment comes from focusing on God. If you don't believe me, read 1 Timothy 6:6-10. It's easy in this word to cover the lives of others, but be careful. One doesn't know what trials a person endured in order to receive a well paying job, a nice car, spacious home, or an attractive spouse. Guard your heart and put it in the Lord's hands. 

As my period of introspection drew to a close I perused 1 John 5 which gave me a powerful sense of clarity. I was at my church Mt. Zion or at Bible study at the Wesley or the Table when the latter verses of that chapter spoke to me. I was talking to a friend who was so overwrought with depression and envy regarding the difficult spot his life is in. He lamented the choices he made in his life like we all do at some point in his life. As we finished our talk I looked at verses 6-13 which says 'the witness of God is greater than the witness of man'. Affirmation, purpose, a reason for being alive are what fuel us. Everyone wants to find their calling in life which can be difficult in a world that confuses purpose with socioeconomic status. I don't know who dictates social norms but God causes us to triumph in every circumstance. Don't purposefully put yourself in a difficult situation to receive a prize because you are tempting God which His Son warns us not to do. In order for a full harvest to happen a seed has to be planted, the soil must be tilled, and watered. Pressure makes diamonds and they never lose their brilliant luster. Stay blessed everyone.

One Step To Emancipation

Independence Day honors the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, by the Continental Congress. This document announced that the thirteen colonies are a new nation no longer under the control of the British Empire. This blog has nothing to do with our nation's history but the notion of freedom. My favorite word in the English language is emancipation because it means one isn't under the control of a domineering force. I was controlled by fear which causes torment as it is mentioned in 1 John 4:18, one of my favorite books. When God planted writing in my heart I feared what it meant. I wasn't a literature major nor did I attend a liberal arts college on the East Coast. Sometimes God places a desire in our hearts that pushes us out our comfort zone and allows us to be fully used for the purpose he has for our lives to bless others. For any gift that God has blessed you with use it for His glory so you can fulfill your calling hear on earth. One doesn't have to publish a novel, amass a large fortune, start a family, or become famous in order to make a difference. God will use where you are if you ask Him for guidance if we ask. A friend and brother in Christ told me that all of us are one step away from a major blessing or breakthrough. Let faith liberate you from any situation or person that is preventing you from fulfilling your destiny. It's never too late. Be blessed and relish in your independence from sin through the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Follow your dreams and help make them a reality. Don't be on your deathbed and regret not pursuing your dreams. There's no sin in failure. The sin is if you never try.

Updates

Good evening my fellow bloggers. I'm sorry for being neglectful; please forgive me because I have been busy with work and drafting ideas for the second book I want out for the fall season. Sorry far the draft for book number two is going well. Could some characters I've introduced be responsible for a crime that has yet to commit. If you have any ideas let m know. Stay blessed and wrapped in God's love. Any gifts you have be sure to use them to glorify the One who has bestowed them you.